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What Started as a Facebook Event Post Turned into a Story and a Fresh Perspective … A Gentleman’s Calling

September 1, 2014

A Gentleman’s Calling

There is a fun dancing and musical event coming to Saugeen Shores Friday through Sunday … the Canadian Big Band 20th Anniversary Celebration. Full details on http://www.canadianbigband.ca. for September 12th through the 14th.

Though I enjoyed learning many of the Big Band dances living in and near Toronto, I’m thinking the Saturday afternoon dance from 1 to 4 with The Lulu’s Band and Men in Black Brassline dishing up Elvis to the Beatles would be easier dancing since I’m a bit rusty on the more posh dances.

While living in Oshawa, I once dated a lovely fellow from several hours north of Oshawa who came down to dance the night away with me. Though it was our last date, it was only our last date because we finally accepted, after many phone conversations and meetings at fall fairs, where he helped out a man with competitive horses I was working for, that our paths were going different ways.

Not accustomed to gentlemanly behavior (he was the second practising gentleman I have met in my life), I was surprised when he drove the several hours to visit, then danced for several hours and then drove home the several hours again … a gentlemen through and through. On many levels, I was sad to see him go that night … and forever.

Trying to be too independent, a struggling feminist, when I met the first gentleman, I at first shirked off his gentlemanly kindness of opening doors, etc., but over time, I grew to desire being treated so respectfully as I began to shift into a more balanced perspective till I finally desired his holding the door for me, helping me back out my Triumph Trophy from a tight spot and such thoughtful and kind things a true gentleman does, but I had pushed away his gentlemanly ways and in part, I realized pushed away a big part of who he truly was away also.

Funny how perspectives change as we come into a healthier balance in life, learning how respect one’s self equally as well as others too. I am sincerely grateful now for the opportunity to keep growing and changing, becoming more appreciative of differences and ways of living.

I am wondering now if there are many more gentleman too who felt spurned by us women as we struggled to find the balance between independence and a civility that brought out the best in both men and women.

September 1, 2014

KAT … Kaitlin Ann Trepanier
The RESPECT SPECIALIST

Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE author and altruistic entrepreneur … because every child … every person … should know, by their own experience, they are valued … RESPECTED. ©

Young … A Qualifier for “Respect?”

August 29, 2014

These days, repeatedly I am reading and hearing the descriptions of “new” as young, yet I am wondering why does someone have to be young to be considered new or emerging?

If we are all growing, developing, and changing, why do we discount someone who is thirty-five, fifty, seventy, or even ninety or one hundred, if they are learning and doing something for the first time? They are “new” at what they are learning and doing, though they may be young-at-heart, which the older we grow we know is true for many, so why dismiss the new who are not young?

Because youth is put on a pedestal instead of the whole life of a human being … because we value youth over all else … because we do not respect all life … yet everyone is “young” in their early years … and though some are born with natural talents that reveal themselves early, for the most part, it is over time, that the many gifts, talents, and abilities of people are discovered, developed, and bloom with life experience and increasing knowledge.

Like all prejudices, conscious or unconscious, transforming mindsets that value one group over others happens first by awareness, then conscious thoughts, choices, and actions.

The young are just young. It makes them no more special than anyone else and this they, and we, need to embrace because if they are fortunate they will live past their youth, which is when who they really are as individuals will shine brighter than their age. And, over time, they too will become “new” or “novices” over and over again as they continue to grow, develop, and change … as they too experience the journey from birth to life to death … because no one is exempted … just as no one should be exempted from respect because of “being young” or because of any other qualifier.

August 2014
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Altruistic Entrepreneur?

August 28, 2014

altruism: unselfish concern for the welfare of others

altruistic: of or motivated by altruism

entrepreneur: a person who organizes and manages a business undertaking, assuming the risk for the sake of profit
 
How can I call myself an altruistic entrepreneur? Are not the two definitions contradictions?

At first consideration, altruistic and entrepreneur seem like contradictions. Many of us identify altruism with non-for-profit organizations whose primary focus is to serve people with their specific mandates to meet their “clients” specific need(s), whereas, an entrepreneur is all about making money for his or her self.

But what if the creator spent twenty years researching, studying, observing, analyzing, and developing created a line of books, products, and services dedicated to help make the world a better place?

Should that creator of all the books, products, and services just give them away to some random not-for-profit organization who will not pay for the works or the creator’s services? Personally, I have met many people, not-for-profits included, who expected me do so and even took ideas without permission, even while I was struggling to keep a roof over my head and decent food on my table. Many even expressed their belief that if I was doing a good thing I should not desire to make a profit.

Why not?

Why should people who want to help the world with their gifts, talents, and abilities be asked to go without pay for who they are, what they can do, and how they can serve? Especially when their intent is to help themselves live a better life while also demonstrating by example that being who you really are is the most valuable contribution we can make to our world … and with their profits gained to give back as another way of serving.

I am not sure how and when entrepreneurship took on such a bad reputation … probably as a result of those who became entrepreneurs solely for the profit and who exploited human and natural resources … and probably since the beginning of humanity since historically there have also been a multitude of churches, religions, organizations, and causes who also exploited those they were supposed to be serving with the money they received … actions that generated revolutions and wars.

As for me, I simply am someone who cares deeply for all people and the world we must share. I have tried the normal route … doing work that did not satisfy my soul, though it did my pocket-book and taught me some valuable skills. I have done many of the poverty-level jobs, which also provided a closer view of the world many people live in and while I continued to study, analyze and develop, I have lived marginally because that was all that was available … till now.

Bringing everything together finally brought the needed clarity … resulting in a large number of books, products, and services to sell, make money on, to buy time to create more, and to generate world peace through the Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE global initiative and the legacy of the planned registered, charitable foundation, The RESPECT PRINCIPLE Foundation that will provide the Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE books, products, and services to those without the resources to pay for them.

Altruistic? Wholeheartedly … demonstrating that we need to put ourselves on the same level as we hold everyone else … not higher … not lower … equally worthy of being “respected” simply for being a life.

Entrepreneur? For sure … learning how to use one’s innovative and creative mind to break old barriers, mindsets, and limitations using the arts to demonstrate the new ways of innovation in the Information Age and to earn decent incomes for our abilities and efforts.

Altruistic Entrepreneur … using my gifts, talents, and abilities to “Raise the standard of living and quality of life of all people, freeing potential through education, entertainment, and inspiration” … that’s me!

It is a job I was made for … it is my life’s work … my vocation.

I hope to serve well.

August 2014
KAT … Kaitlin Ann Trepanier

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Definitions from Coles Concise English Dictionary 1979

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A Special Thank You for the “Likes” and the “Following” Team

August 27, 2014

My apologies visitors for not getting back to you personally when you “Like” a blog entry or join the “Following” team … I am still working on balancing my life, such as taking time out like you did to say “Hi!”

So, hello, each and everyone one of you! I hope you accept my apology now and I also
want you to know how thrilled and grateful I am each time you visit, like and/or follow … from now on, I will do my best to make sure I respond in kind … respectfully, of course ; – )

Till tomorrow then … adieu!

Sincerely,
KAT … Kaitlin Ann Trepanier

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Tired of Feeling Jealous, Envious, and/or Trying to Keep Up Appearances?

August 25, 2014

It is All About One’s RESPECT LEVEL

Recognizing … respecting … everyone has their own challenges, even if that challenge is wealth and good fortune, is how we overcome our own feelings of jealousy, envy, and trying to keep up with those who have more money and material things, who have the talents, abilities, jobs, the relationships, the community status, etc. we want.

But what challenge can wealth possibly bring to such people’s lives? By their very circumstances, such people attract jealousy, envy, lack of compassion, lack of privacy, lack of peace … and just look at how many famous wealthy people’s lives end in tragedy.

Of course, the other extreme is the many without enough food, medical care or education, even if they have a decent place to sleep. Jobless or with different goals than the “normal mainstream,” such people also experience jealousy, envy and the desire to keep up appearances in order to keep the harmful emotions other people’s judgment of them attracts into their life … scorn, disdain, ostracizing, etc.

And in the middle of these two extreme groups of people … the people who have more than the impoverished and therefore feel superior, but also resentful of those who do not have enough, which they believe takes away from what they have for themselves … that their lives would be easier if such people did not exist.

Yet, ironically, the wealthy feel the same way about those in the middle … who, on one hand, idolize the wealthy, are obsessed by them and their wealth, yet at the same time also are jealous, envious, and go into extreme debt in trying to keep up with appearances … to show others in the same pack they are worthy of being jealous and envious of because of what they have.

Personally, thinking about everyone with a higher Respect Level than I have most of my life, has freed me from the constant barrage of negative judgment about myself and therefore naturally about other people. My hearts goes out to all because we all have challenges to face and overcome in order to finally start thriving.

I thought my childhood was impoverished, but I have since learned that though those times were quite challenging, food was always available and in fact, was often plentiful and good. I thought my teenage years were rough with all their challenges … an early marriage turning into a nightmare after quitting high school to get married, then remarrying, returning to school, moving to the city, and securing an excellent job that paid very well and also showed me first hand what people could have and I was astounded and like many people thought, “Hey, me too. I could … should have all that too … even though I had been fortunate enough that my salary doubled after one year of school.” Instead of being happy, grateful, I stressed on and on about what I did not have and though I often would not admit it, I was often jealous and resentful, searching for many to blame for what I did not have versus being grateful for what I did have. I was angry and felt betrayed by those who had taken advantage of my low Respect Level, who previously and subsequently have paid poverty wages and treated me disrespectfully in other ways too.

Since then, I have experienced and seen real poverty … not the kind defined by not getting or having what you want but what one needs to just survive. I have been homeless a few times, however, thankfully not for long. I have had to lean on our system to help me survive while I searched for ways to adapt differently from what I had previously learned and acted upon.

Shaped by a culture that values what people have, I too have experienced the prejudice born of that conditioning and the ignorance of that conditioning that judges people on what they have and the many other tools of prejudice.

This little story is but a small sampling of what our culture, local and global, does to people because the culture is based on what I’ve named the Disrespect Philosophy … the belief, often unconscious, that no one is valuable … worthy of respect … unless such a person meets someone or some group’s arbitrary “qualifier” of wealth, status, looks, race, etc.

However, what I am discovering as I raise my own Respect Level … the valuation of myself … the more I value other people … their differences, including their financial wealth, and now I can see the extremely wealthy with a fresh perspective … I can see through their eyes as easily as I can see through the impoverished and the majority eyes … and I can say “No” to jealousy, envy, and trying to keep up the appearances other people expect so that I can better spend my time and energy in developing my potential to the best of my ability, minding my own business, and by example, inviting other people do the same … to respect one’s self at the same level one respect others.

And for those people you chose to look up to, go ahead, admire them for what they have achieved by their own merit … but not for what they have inherited or what has been given them for those things do not define who they are either … they are circumstances that come with their own challenges, including not being fearful of losing what they have gained.

Over the years, I have had much money and things and also very little, yet I have discovered on my quest to help others and our world that truly what I have externally have really does mean nothing if what I have on the inside is not valued … respected by me … because my level of respect for myself has determined the level of respect I have held for others.

Learning this has freed me from wasting valuable energy on jealousy, envy, and trying to keep up the appearances someone else has decided, consciously or not, they believe I should live up to. Undoubtedly, I assure you it is how you will also be freed.

I believe you are valuable … each and every one of you … simply for being a life. And once you believe it too, then you can begin to be and do your best … with whatever you have to work with and you will be feel good about your life no matter what is happening to and around you … that is freedom … the freedom that creates peace in your and our world.

August 2014
KAT … Kaitlin Ann Trepanier

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AUDITION and PRODUCTION TEAM CALL for WORKSHOP PRODUCTION of CHARLES CHOICE

August 22, 2014

CALL for WORKSHOP PRODUCTION of CHARLES' CHOICE

August 2014
KAT … Kaitlin Ann Trepanier

All Rights Reserved by KAT … Kaitlin Ann Trepanier, Altruistic Entrepreneur, Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE Author and global initiative Developer and Distributor … because every child … every person … should know, by their own experience, they are valued … RESPECTED. ©

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